Understanding certain things in life just isn’t always possible… for me anyways. Like for instance, how do I still have a driver’s license? Most of the time I have no idea how I got from point A to point B because I was obviously day dreaming. It’s a miracle that I’m still alive!! I drive like a maniac. I have zero patience for other drivers; slow drivers, stupid drivers, reckless drivers… ALL OTHER DRIVERS!! I swear, and yell at other drivers, out loud, even though they can’t hear me, because I’m irritated by them. This is why I need a driver.
Then there is this little gem: how have I not been arrested for first degree murder, several times over, by now? Most of the time, and I do mean MOST OF THE TIME, with exceptions of course, I want to throat punch people, whack them upside the head with whatever is in my hand, punch them in the face, and sometimes I even want to kick them in the shins. Why? Because people, not all people, but some people, are just plain stupid, rude, inconsiderate, oblivious, callous, selfish, thoughtless, ignorant, and most of all just plain dumb. Does common sense, exist anymore? Does common courtesy exist today? Does common decency no longer exist in this world? What is wrong with people? It’s not that hard to use your brain. Just access that little cavern in the back that tells you how to not be a moron.
And then there was hate; this one I truly don’t understand. As a rule, I do not hate anyone. I may dislike them, I may despise them, but I don’t hate them. Hate, while technically meaning dislike and despise, is so much more of a negative connotation when it comes to feelings towards other people. When someone says they harbor hatred towards another person or group of persons, I feel sick inside for all parties involved. The word hate just feels so much more violent, and is the root of so much violence from one to another. For instance, I was skimming my Facebook feed, and came across a post where the mother, who was white, of a black 14-year-old child, was pleading for parents to educate their children on the importance of treating people with kindness and respect. Especially if you don’t know the other person. Apparently her son, and his white friend were at the town park ready to take a swim in the lake, when two other children, both white and of an unknown age, approached them and said some very vile, nasty, racist things to her son. In my opinion, these abhorrent little creatures are the product of their environment both at home and in the world.
First, interactions like this stem from hate, but how can you can hate someone who you don’t even know? How can you justify hating a person that you don’t know from a hole in the wall, because of their skin color? Or because of their religion? Or because of their sexual preference, Or because of their nationality? It makes zero sense to me. When I form an opinion of a person, it is based solely on their mannerisms, intellect or lack there of, and their sense of humor. Sometimes I judge to quickly, sometimes I take to long to judge, but I would never, even if I determined that this person and I will never be friends, judge and dislike based off of skin color, religion, sexual preference, or nationality. How can someone justify these types of negative feelings based solely off of something so trivial? It is a wast of time, effort, and your own existence to be so vile towards another human being that has done absolutely nothing to you. Someone that you don’t even know.
Second, what kind of parent lets their child act like this? The obvious answer is the parent who also acts like this towards other people, or… the parent who has no clue what their child is doing and how they are acting. Children are a product of their environment, if you, as a parent, act with hate then expect that your children are going to act with hate because that is what they see at home. If a child has absentee parents for any number of reasons, then it stands to reason that children who are not taught how to act decently, will not act like decent human beings. We need to do better for our children! Our children are our future! At the rate this world is going today, I’m afraid to see what it will be like in another forty years. I know that I have taught my daughter to be a good person, to treat others with kindness, and to treat people as she would want them to treat her. It’s not that hard. It’s an easy concept to grasp. Why are we as a society failing so miserable at it?
Lastly, it is easy to blame the current administration for the upsurge in public hate crimes, again we, not everyone but some, will inherently act the way we see our superiors act. For instance, if we see the POTUS getting away with sexual harassment, bribery, blackmail, racism, domestic abuse, child neglect, fraud, hatred, and general stupidity, then why not think it is okay for the little people to do it to. Well, NEWS FLASH AMERICA, IT. IS. NOT. OKAY. I’m sure that you have figured out that I am not a Trump supporter, but that does not mean that I do not respect the office to which he sits. While I think he is making a mockery of it, he is, at the end of the day, just another man. Albeit a man in a position of power, and therefore he should act accordingly, BUT… and this is a BIG one so pay attention… teach your children right from wrong. If they see it on TV, tell them it is not okay. If they see it on the streets or in school, tell them it is not okay. If they see it at home, reevaluate the way you act and tell your self and them, that it is not okay.
My parents always told me, I still always tell my daughter, and I’m going to say it again for you: TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WOULD WANT THEM TO TREAT YOU. Otherwise, don’t be surprised when you’re the one having hatred spewed at you for no reason, because didn’t you just do that to someone else that you didn’t know? For no reason at all except your own sick satisfaction?
Again… I have said it before, but we need to do better for the future of our children and this world.
Until next time…
P.S. I will still probably drive like a maniac, so be warned. And I will still swear out loud in the car at other drivers, but they can’t hear me. And I will still probably envision myself throat punching the person who wants to have a conversation BEFORE I have had caffeine, but I would never actually do it, so there is that.